Your Value and Finding the Courage to Live Up to Your Worth

The illusion is that your life, worth, esteem, importance, or contribution to humanity is based on material things. This is the illusion.

Most people placed a very high value on Mother Teresa. They accurately assessed a very special human life. Yet how many material things did she own? She had very little, yet she helped to truly uplift humanity. She was a very special soul, doing much needed work. In fact, she was the epitome of an important person.

We all value virtue when we see it. Yet we lose sight of virtue in the face of a daily barrage of ads for material things that we are falsely led to believe will make us better people, more worthy, more highly respected as if our intrinsic value were not enough to make us worthy and deserving of respect.

Your Choices

The most important thing you must know is that you hold the individual power to choose how you respond to the events in your life; it is solely your choice to move in one direction or another. With your choices, you create your own reality.

Now, there are agreements between souls who enter your life for certain growth lessons or experiences in which you agreed to participate; those meetings are predestined, but their outcomes are not. The outcomes depend on the choices you make.

So, if you find you are being disempowered due to meeting a certain person, then consider that the reason this person entered your life was so you could grow to honor your own self and push away from one who undermines your growth, if you choose to do this. Should you choose to remain with one who undermines your growth and causes you to feel less than the incredible being you are, you will find that your choice results in misery. You will end up sacrificing your life, playing victim to a chance meeting, a meeting that was predestined to help you come to terms with your highest growth issue.

Of the millions of people who are sacrificing their very lives by choosing to remain in abusive relationships, all in the name of love, I ask, who are you loving? Where are you keeping yourself, and what justifications are you using to avoid your own personal growth? Do not use love as an excuse here. To be a victim, to falsely empower an abuser, is anything but love. To realize a great part of your inner worth is to see your way beyond the challenges. You must set your sights above them and find the inner resources, by connecting to your higher self, or your deepest inner knowing to guide you in the direction of your choosing, for your highest good.

An event in your life is only a part of your life and not your whole life. Do keep the grander picture in mind. Keep the perspective that any event or circumstance or person in your life does not constitute your entire life but a part of it.

This can be either most pleasurable or most painful. I would venture to say that any experience that brings you pain is there for you to grow and learn from. Moreover, any experience that brings you pleasure is given to you because you deserve to experience pleasure.

Do seek to grow and to learn so all of your life can be as joyful and as pleasurable as possible. Suffering is part of the tapestry until you realize the gift or the reason for the suffering. In most cases suffering stems from denial of what is in front of you and from your fear of embracing that which is trying to move you in the most positive direction.

So, as you suffer, you are forced to look at the source of your suffering. It is not the other. It is you. And it is your choice to either embrace the experiences before you or walk away from them. You will know which course of action will ultimately bring you the greatest happiness. When you are true to yourself, you always know what to do.

This is paramount in a consciousness, a life that seeks to evolve.

Your potential is unlimited as a human being. The only way you will be able to fulfill your potential and feel your genuine worth is by making choices based solely on your deepest truth, just one moment at a time.

Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.

Barbara Rose, Ph.D. is the best selling author of nine books including If God Hears Me, I Want an Answer!, Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE, and Know Yourself. She is an internationally recognized expert in personal transformation, relationships, consciousness and spiritual awakening, and a pioneering force in incorporating Higher Self Communication, the nondenominational study and integration of huma4C4nity's God Nature into modern personal growth and spiritual evolution. Dr. Rose is known for providing life changing answers, quick practical coaching and deep spiritual wisdom to people worldwide as the Founding Director of Institute of Higher Self Communication. Her highly acclaimed books, public speaking events, spiritual intensives, teleseminars, webcasts, and internationally published articles transform the lives of millions across the globe. Dr. Rose works in cooperation with some of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time, to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity. Web: BornToInspire.Com

Mother Teresa

5 Great Tips To Make Your Goals Your Reality

Goals are a great tool for motivation. But if you don't use them correctly, they can also be a source of frustration. Goals are only empowering if they are used properly. So how do you make a goal into something that is a benefit for you?

Goal-setting strategies are important especially for to help you create the type of success you desire and deserve. Here are five goal-setting techniques to help you realize them.

1. Balance Your Goals: In your life you will have personal development goals, personal finance goals and things goals. Don't neglect any of them. It is ok to want things, but don't forget to balance those pursuits with your own growth as a person. All of these goals are important so be clear about all of them and make them real for you.
2. Plan Actions From Your Goals: Goals are not items for your to do list. Your goal is what you are striving for. Plan specific actions that lead you towards those goals. Use the goals to provide your compass for those actions. When you plan actions for the day you can easily tell if they're going to be effective if you have clear goals to compare them against.
3. Share Your Goals: If you were an archer, would you keep it a secret that your goal is to hit the bull's-eye? Too many keep their goals a secret. Share your goals with people who will support and encourage your aims.
4. Write Down Your Goals: Make your goals real by recording them. Put copies of your goals on index cards and keep copies in the car and in the bathroom and review them regularly. Make them the center of your focus. Don't just set them and then ignore them. Your goals are like a compass to tell you which way to go. The exciting part is that you get to chose the alignment of your compass.
5. Don't Give Up: Your goals and the actions you take to get them are different things. Don't be afraid to try something, f57Dail and try something else. Take effective and massive action to meet your goals and understand that any true goals will take many steps to achieve. Sometimes you will make a misstep, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the goal. Everyone makes mistakes, but it's only those who abandon their goals who don't achieve them.

Dave Saunders is an author and speaker on motivation and finding balance between body, mind and spirit. Visit http://www.the-time-management-guy.com and receive free time management and goal setting tips.

Michael Berg

The Heart of the Mentor - Drawing From Experiences

Those of us who have been mentored know that it takes an extraordinary person to touch and affect peoples lives in such a unique way. Mentors must be many things, but they must primarily be a person who draws everything there is to be gained from an experience. Experience teaches us wisdom, knowledge, morality, and human nature to name a few. But a mentor internalizes the feelings and emotions gained from lifes experiences and translates them into the words that can lead, guide, educate, and heal.

One may assume that experience and emotional learning occur naturally in everyone but this is not always true. How often do we go through the motions of life without ever really articulating the feelings we experience? It requires careful monitoring and a thorough memory to take the emotional lessons life teaches us and turn them into lessons for another. A mentor is a mentor long before they meet their partner or make a commitment. They are a lifelong interpreter of feelings associated with experience. It is more than learning from encounters. It is more than remembering encounters. It is reliving the encounter every time they share the experience.

When a mentor shares an experience they recapture the feelings they had at the time and put them into the context of the present. Sharing the feelings they had when they faced a challenge takes more than just retelling the events and time frames. To be genuine and authentic they must touch the actual feeling of challenge, with its fears and excitement, and put those feelings into words.

It is the authenticity of feeling that truly enriches the mentoring process. We have all had conversations where stories are told and walked away with only knowledge of a specific event. In mentoring we walk away with much more. The energy and authenticity of our mentors words are the elements that make mentoring far more than a conversation. They are the elements that inspire and motivate us. They are guidance with the energy to motivate us to take action and make changes.

When mentoring is part of the career process we have the chance to develop our lives with the knowledge and wisdom of anothers experience. When that knowledge and wisdom are shared with genuine feeling we dont just learnwe absorb. It is what allows us to choose a path, take a risk, and learn from our mistakes. It gives us the vigor to make these decisions and choices. It takes a lot of energy to live and grow in the business world and it is the lack of that energy that leads to apathy and ambivalence. More than seeking advice, seeking mentoring is reaching out for the power to control and influence our world.

You may wonder how you will know if someone is truly a mentor or just someone who is giving advice. Once you have met a mentor, the difference will become obvious. Your mentoring sessions will leave you motivated and intrigued, not fearful or apprehensive about decisions you are now faced with. The mentoring experience is a truly remarkable relationship and it is no wonder that so many professionals credit their success to mentoring. Some of the most influential and successful business people sought and received mentoring early in their careers and achieved incredible things.

All these things are possible because mentors mentor with their hearts. That vital and powerful part of them is what allows them to have such an impact on the lives of others. Sharing their hearts, with all its intrinsic hopes and dreams, gives them the authenticity to guide and enrich. When you meet a true mentor it is not hard to believe them because they have a consistency that one can trust and believe in. The emotions they share are consistent with the words and experiences they impart. When you find a mentor you have found a valuable treasure and the process deserves your efforts and respect. Future articles will cover how to be a good partner in mentoring and how mutual nurturing is essential to the process. Mentoring is such a complex concept that this article alone only touches the surface of such an exciting and beneficial process.

Melissa Vokoun is a successful Business Advisor and Trainer. From 1983 to 2005 she was COO and VP of Sales and Marketing for a national telecom equipment distributor. Her passion for business, working with clients in solving critical issues in the strategic, tactical and operational areas of growth continues. She is now President and Founder of NuVo Partners and Successful Business Advisors. To learn more about the services available, please visit the website at: http://www.nuvo-partners.com or call 847-392-6886.

Mother Teresa

Personal Coach For Mental Toughness

My personal coach is me! A tough mental attitude is not something you can purchase at the corner store or at your favourite supermarket. My coach is the door to a mental attitude that will show me where I want to go & what I need to do to get there.

Our life is our own autobiography that we have already written, it is within us. What we need to do is examine ourselves we need to look closely at our feelings, our emotions and try to understand them, without fear. Our emotion572s and feelings are ours, they do not belong to someone else, we do not need to fear them, we are all born with them. They are not bad things. We own them.

What we can do however is we can learn to accept them. The negative feelings & emotions, the positive feelings & emotions. they are our makeup. We own them & we can choose to keep them or we choose to let them go, it is our choice. When we choose to release a negative feeling or emotion, and cast it aside, it may not happen immediately but as we practice releasing, it will become easier.

Any activity we employ that demands continual exercises for our mind, our brain, will strengthen our ability to become whatever we want to become it is up to us as individuals to determine how tough our mental attitude will be. We do not have to fear letting go, We do not have to fear being our best self.

Michael Berg

What Is Your Time Worth

Growing businesses are finding outsourcing is becoming a regular necessity to keep up with increasing demands. Over the past few years, a new resource has emerged and is gaining momentum as the word spreads; that is, the services of a Virtual Assistant (VA)

With the advances of technology, it is becoming easier for businesses to outsource some of their administrative tasks, without the need of having a person in house. No need to provide a desk and computer. A VA is able to provide administrative support to businesses all over the world. Distance is never an issue. VA's communicate with their clients by email, telephone, fax, instant messenger or file transfer.

So what is a Virtual Assistant? Since 1996, more than 5,000 professionals around the world have become Virtual Assistants. A Virtual Assistant is an independent business owner who works from their home office environment. Many have chosen to leave the corporate world and start their own business, giving them freedom to better balance family and work time. VA's are highly skilled professionals, who keep up to date with the latest software and trends. They provide a wide range of general administrative services but often specialize in areas such as Web Design, Marketing, Strategic Planning, Project Management or Real Estate Assistance.

Training to become a Virtual Assistant can be found through several organizations; International Virtual Assistant Association, Assist U, International Association of Virtual Office Assistants, and Red Deer College, to name a few. Through the intensive 2-year curriculum, a VA can obtain Certification or progress even further to obtain the status of Master Virtual Assistant.

Business owners only pay a VA for work performed, which is billed hourly. Being responsible for their own taxes, training, health care, insurance, and overhead costs makes hiring a VA an affordable option. Business owners often find they are doing many administrative tasks themselves, leaving very little time to devote to developing their business or planning for future growth. By hiring a Virtual Assistant and delegating daily routine tasks, you can free up time for higher priorities.

As an example:

You charge $75 per hour for your services.

You spend a total of 5 hours on administrative tasks.

$75/hr X 5 hours = $375.00 time value

Costs of hiring a virtual assistant to handle these tasks.

$40/hr X 5 hours = $200.00

$375 - $200 = $175 time value saved by enabling you to devote your time on revenue producing tasks, which could generate additional profits.

The second International Virtual Assistant's Day was celebrated on May 19, 2007 to recognize this new profession. There are about 170 VA's in Ontario and this number is growing rapidly. Two associations in Canada provide support to VA's; the Canadian Virtual Assistant Connection www.cvac.ca and the Canadian Virtual Assistant Network www.canadianva.net These associations provide a Request for Proposal service for businesses looking to hire a VA through the association's on-line directory.

As the Virtual Assistant industry profile increases through media coverage and word of mouth from satisfied clients, the face of outsourcing in the new millennium is changing.

Erika Martlew is a Virtual Assistant offering professional administrative support and marketing assistance to small businesses and entrepreneurs. She has extensive training and experience in marketing and customer service. To see a listing of other services offered, visit her web site at http://www.erikamartlew.com Erika can be reached by phone at (905) 977-1657

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Theodore Roosevelt

Success Life - Attain Your Life-Goal

LIFE GOAL

Yes,you can attain your life goal!

You can attain your life-goal no matter what your present circumstances are.If you have a high life-goal and a low beginning -thats good. Thats good?Why? Because people who must overcome difficulties have more need and more motivation to try harder . Psychologists call this "over-compensation",which simbly means "extar trying " or trying harder in order to overcome difficulties. J.Paul Getty,who is a billionaire (equal to 1,000 millionaires),says that the secret of success is just two wards:TRY HARDER! Any one ,anywhere,can try harder. The greater your difficulties,the harder you need to try to overcome them.And ,the harder you try,the more you succeed!

Any one ,anywhere,can try harder. The greater your difficulties,the harder you need to try to overcome them.And ,the harder you try,the more you succeed! If you want to attain your goal earnestly enough to try harder...and try harder...and try harder.

SUCCESS

SUCCESS METHODS

1. Attain your life-goal,whatever it is

2. Become the person you want to be!

3. Get WHATEVER you want!

4. Succed with PEOPLE-PROBLEM!

5. manage and ,if it is neccessary,control PROBLEM-PEOPLE!

6. Manage and control YOURSELF so that you can successfully Master ANY personal problems!

7. Achive and maintain INNERPEACE so that you will be at peace with yourself and with your fellow men!

8. You can harvest ONLY what you plant

*If you think success,you will be successful

*If you think goodwill,you will atleast goodwill

*If you think friendship,you will attract friends

*If you think love,you will be loved

9.You to control your life and determine your future!

10.You MUST GUIDE YOUR LIFE WITH MENTAL PICTURES!

SELF CONTROL

There is no excuse for unjustified anger;it can bring about your downfall.Wait and be patient,and later you will be glad you did.keep quiet until the right time to speak,and you will gain a reputation for good sense. Don't be quick to speak or lazy and neglight in your work.Don't act like a lion at home or be suspicious of your servents .dont stick out your hand to get somthing if you're going to be tightfisted when the time comes to pay it back.

1.LOOSE TALK:

Avoid idle talk,and you will avoid a lot of trouble.Never repeat what you hear,and you will have no regrets.Don't tell it to your friends or your enemies unless it would be sinful to keep it to yourself.Whoever hears you will take note of it,and sooner or later will hate you for it.Have you heard a rumour?Let it die with you.Be brave! It wont make you explode.A foolish person trying to keep a secret suffers like a women in labour.Whenever he hears a secret,its like an arrow stuck in this leg.if you hear that a friend has done somthing wrong ,ask him about it.Maybe he didn't say it.if he did,he won't say it again .if you hear somthing that makes you angry with your threaten him.Leave the matter to the Law of the Most High.

2.KNOWING WHEN TO TALK:

Some people are thought to be wish because they don't talk much;others are disliked because they talk too much.Some people keep quiet because they don't have anything to say;others keep quiet because they know the right time to speak.A wise person will not speak until the right moment ,but a bragging fool doesn't know when that time is .No one can stand a person who talks too long and will not give others a chance to speak.

3.INAPPROPRIATE TALK:

Nobody take as proverb seriously when some fool quotes it at the wrong time.you can lose all your self-respect by being reluctant to speak up in the presence of stupidity.if you promise a friend somthing because you are too bashful to say no,you're making an enemy needlessly.Lying is an ugly blot on a person 's character,but ignorant people do it all the time.A thief is better than a habitual liar,but both are headed for ruin.A liar has no honour .He lives in constant disgrace.

4.BEHAVIOUR AT DINNER PARTIES

When you sit down at a fancy banquet,don't say,"LOOK at all that food!"It is impolite to have a greedy eye;remember that.Nothing in creation is greedier than the eye;that is why it sheads tears so often.Don't reach out for everything you see,and don't elbow people out of the way to get.Be considerate of the other people at the table and treat them the way you want to be treated.When you get your food ,eat it like a human being.Don't smack your lips and slurp;nobody can stand that.It's good manners to be the first to stop eating;stuffing yourself is offensive.If there are many people present,don't try to be the first to be served.A little bit is plenty for anyone with good manner.Besides,you won't be short of breath when you go to bed.People who eat too much get stomachache and cannot sleep.If you don't overeat,you can get a good night's sleep and wake up early the next morning feeling fine.But if you do get a stomachache from eating to much,go off and vomit and you will feel better.Hello friends if you listen to what i am saying and put it into practice,one of these days,you will thank me for it.Be moderate in everything you do,and you will never be sick.

BODY LANGUAGE

EYE SIGNALS

1.THE BUSINESS:

When having discussions on a business level,imagin that there is a triangle on the other person's forehead.By keeping your gaze directed at this area ,you create a serious atmosphere and the other person senses that you mean business.provided that your gaze does not drop below the level of other person's eyes,you are able to maintain control of the interaction.

2.THE SOCIAL GAZE:

When the gaze drops below the orther person's eye level,a social atmosphere develops.Experiments into gazing reveal that during social encounters the gazer's eyes also look in a triangular area on the other person's face,in the case between the eyes and the mouth.

3.THE INTIMATE GAZE:

The gaze is across the eyes and below the chin to other parts of the person's body.In close encounters it is triangular body.In close encounters its the triangular area between the eyes and the chest or breasts and for distant gazing from the eyes to the crotch.Men and Women use this gaze to show interest in each other and those who are interested will return the gaze.

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Sauniere Story

Goal Setting And The Road To Mastery

Can goal setting be reduced to a formula? Of course, there are self-help books out there with their 5 steps, 12 steps and so on, approaches to setting goals and "achieving whatever you desire"! They are not the topic of this article. Instead, I want to introduce you to the wisdom of George Leonard as expressed in his book, "Mastery - the Keys to Success and Long Term Fulfillment."

"War on Mastery"
Although Mr Leonard is writing with American society in mind, I believe there are lessons here for goal setters in most of the industrialized countries. Lesson #1 is what the author refers to as "America's War on Mastery". This is the learned behavior of a populace "addicted" to a relentless, compulsive urge for an almost endless series of climactic experiences and thrills.

The "anti-mastery" drugs are administered primarily through the mass media of entertainment and popular culture - sports, movies and soap operas. Faced with such a dazzling array of apparently effortless perfection, "quick-fix" solutions and "world class" talents in almost every conceivable arena of human achievement, it is enough to make a mere mortal onlooker despair of getting started with whatever talents he/she possesses.

Now from a coaching perspective, I could argue that these displays of perfection are wonderful role models for others to aspire to. And in some ways they are. However, Mr Leonard is lamenting the fact that society seems to ignore the fact that real excellence in any endeavor comes only after long years of practice, frustration and persistence. Interspersed with sporadic improvements - and sometimes regressions too! He calls this "loving the plateau" and draws on his love and experience with the martial art of aikido as an example.

So what are the goal setting lessons? I think there are two big ones:

Lesson 1:
Set medium and long term goals with the plateau in mind!

Sure, it is possible (and often desirable) to set and achieve short-term goals. There is satisfaction and pride to be experienced in doing that. However, "real life" teaches us that going for a big goal (e.g. starting a home business) is not a meteoric rise from point A to point B. There may be long periods where you may appear to be going nowhere, or even backwards, and where you must "practice" all of your learned abilities on a daily basis just to keep going.

And then one unexpected day there is a breakthrough, an unexpected order, or a surprise introduction to a new customer, which can "change-the-game" and lift your home business onto the next plateau.

Those who are expecting the "quick fix" road to riches will likely taste bitter disappointment. And those who see "achieving the goal" as the point of it all will probably miss out on the 80% that truly mattered along the way. A hollow victory indeed!

Lesson 2:
Love To Practice!

This is sometimes expressed as "Find Your Passion". But I think it goes more than that because some, who find their passion intellectually, hesitate to commit to the daily, sometimes monotonous practice that fulfilling that passion will require.

I guess that's why entrepreneurs hire others to do some of that drudgework! And maybe you should plan for a similar division of roles.

But at the core of it all will be a goal of simply "doing what you love to do". Find that and time on the plateau is to be treasured indeed.

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Mark McClure is a leading Asia-Pacific 'change-the-game' career coach and Internet Business Owner.

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